Uh oh. This brides future family members might be feeling slighted.

Writes Save the Date reader Sophia:

Im getting married this weekend. (!!) My best friend will be my maid of honor, and my fiances brothers girlfriend will be the only other bridesmaid. My fiance and I have lived with his brother and his brothers girlfriend for two years, so the four of us are very close. I didnt want a big wedding party, and it seemed natural to ask only these two girls.

So whats the problem?

My fiance has two other brothers, both of whom are married. Im not close with the other brothers wives, mostly because they dont live nearby. Also, they were both pregnant when got engaged, so I figured theyd have more important things to worry about (babies!) when our wedding rolled around.

I thought everyone was fine with our decision, but now, with the wedding just DAYS away, my future mother-in-law said this to my fiance: I wonder where Ill sit at the wedding? I guess since you didnt ask your brothers wives to be bridesmaids, I can sit with them.

UGH!

Clearly she takes issue with the fact that I didnt ask them to be in the bridal party. Now Im wondering if theyre upset, too! I assumed everyone would understand why we chose the people we didand I didnt think his brothers wives would care!

I dont want there to be family drama the week before our wedding, but if my future mother-in-law or my fiances brothers wives are upset Id like to clear the air. I just dont know how to handle the situation! Help!

Here are my thoughts:

I have plenty of experience with meddling mother-in-lawsshe means well, but …and my instinct is that your future mother-in-law is being a drama queen.

I wouldnt worry about who she thinks should be in your bridal party, but if youre worried the brothers wives are feeling slighted, go ahead and e-mail them.

Id say: Im probably being a crazy bride, but it just occurred to me that the two of you might be hurt that I didnt ask you to be bridesmaids. I know were about to be family, but as you know, we kept our wedding party super-small, and I only asked the two girls Im closest with right now. I just figured youre both super-busy with the babies and probably dont have the time or energy to worry about our wedding on top of all the new-baby stuff! If you have a few spare minutes next weekend, Id love it if you could stop by the bridal suite around 4:00 [or whenever] so we can have some girl time before the wedding. If a visit would interfere with nap schedules or anything, of course I get it, but Id love to plan a get-together for the very near future. Sorry if Im over-thinking things, but Im sure you know how crazed Im feeling right now!

Ladies, what do you think? Do you think Sophias future sisters-in-law are pissed? Or do you think her future mother-in-law is being a drama queen?

For the record, I think its FINE that she didnt ask her fiances brothers wives to be in the bridal party!

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